opinion

Splendid Isolation

July 21, 2019

Social anxiety is the single most common psychological problem according to innumerable survey results worldwide. The magnificent, gorgeous and excellent isolation, resulting out of being nervous when meeting people is really the opposite. The state of being isolated reminds me of being in a hospital with an infectious disease.      Does the project of giving a speech or going to a social gathering give you the willies?      Relax, there are always ways and solutions to help you by teaching you “never to be nervous again”.       During the last weeks, I experienced several situations meeting new people, asking questions, replying to questions delivering speeches.       I have been always the most silent pupil in elementary and high school. I was ashamed even to talk to or with my teachers. Several terrible school records have been the result. But, I wanted to become a journalist. I am still one. And, I am teaching in Davao in the University of Southeastern Philippines, as some of you might know already.      During college times and while writing my first articles, I learned from my first boss, a daily news publisher, to avoid being nervous while meeting people. I was always prepared. Preparation for any communicating situation is a must. I have been invited to many parties and gatherings. I always asked for the guest list. I scanned all newspapers and browsed in the net.      “In your opinion, who...” or “What do you think of....?” kept the momentum going. That was sometime during the 1960s. Since that time I was just very lucky to meet always the right people at the right time and place, which kept on teaching me how to avoid splendid isolation. Whether you’re delivering a speech, approaching your boss, or joining an important social occasion, do at first your homework.      The most polished, smoothly delivered and spontaneous soundings talks are the result of many hours of work and years long experiences. The memorable one-liners and moving phrases that went down in history didn’t come from the last minute bursts of inspiration.      I also learned from Harvard University historian Richard Marius, “that good writing is a kind of wresting with thought”. Or, as New York Times columnist William Safire expressed before: “To communicate, put your thoughts in order, give them a purpose, use them to persuade, to instruct, to discover, to seduce!”      Let’s don’t forget, that everyone of us has something to be proud of, and that everyone enjoys talking about it. But, you have to make it happen! +++      Email: doringklaus@gmail.com or follow me in Facebook, Linkedin or Twitter or visit www.germanexpatinthephilippines.blogspot.com or www.klausdoringsclassicalmusic.blogspot.com.

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Hi! Hope you’re well!

July 14, 2019

A short article of Emily Torres of BBC London caught my attention. And yes, the lady is so very right.      Great to hear from you!      As former Managing Editor of several law magazines, published in Berlin, Amsterdam, and New York, my job has been also editing a lot of articles. Every time, I met an exclamation mark, I felt an alarming signal.      Yes, even until today, I’m well-known for my cheerfulness. Even on my worst days, I put on a happy face to communicate with people outside my immediate friends and colleagues. In my emails, this behavior manifests itself as exclamation marks. And being honest, I experience the same feelings as Emily Torres.      Honestly, allow me to quote Emily: preoccupied with appearing nice, I used to catch myself using exclamations at the end of every other sentence. And I’m not ashamed to admit it because, chances are, you’ve sent those emails too.      And now, let’s stick together: Take a look at the last few messages you sent. If you’re like me/us, you’ll see exclamations and other niceties peppered throughout: “Looking forward to seeing the end result!” and “I’m excited to hear from you!” and “I’m happy to help out!”      But are you?      I like the example of Emily Torres at this point: former US presidential candidate Jeb Bush’s use of an excitable exclamation mark in his logo during his 2016 campagin drew some mocking from the media.      Whether you send off a few – or a few dozen – emails a day, you’re making these micro-decisions about how to accommodate your recipient when you address, punctuate, and clarify your ideas in real time. And this is where decades of conditioning creep in, and that anxiety-driven need to be liked emerges.      Especially for women, who use exclamation marks more often than men do. In a 2006 study, researchers analysed 200 exclamations used in professional discussion groups, and found that females used 73% of the exclamation marks. The study concluded that women use these marks more often than men do in order to convey friendliness in their professional interactions.      How is your opinion? The scourge of the exclamation mark is this: I use it excessively because of the pressure I feel to manage the recipient’s feelings. My default tone is enthusiastic, even when the situation doesn’t call for it, says Emily Torres. How about you?      Exclamation marks can sometimes be jarring or convey strong emotion. The European Parliament used them to protest changes to Hungary’s constitution in 2013. Have you seen another example during last days or weeks?      I strongly agree with emily in saying, that women tend to overemphasize our kindness at work, and not without good reason. According to McKinsey’s 2018 Women in the Workplace report, we are still less likely to be hired in or promoted to senior positions, and there’s pressure to provide more evidence of our competence than our male colleagues. And, unsurprising to many women, we’re more likely to have our judgement questioned in our area of expertise.      Allow me to ask: is this why I overcompensate with enthusiasm?      This goes beyond my emails, too. In mixed company - maybe you too my dear reader... . I’m not always the loudest voice in the room and I used to be hesitant to interject. I used to fear speaking up and standing up for my ideas and expertise in an effort to let others take the credit they demanded. That meant my contributions went unshared in the name of politeness.      Well, next time you’re planing to use exclamation marks think about, that we are often found in warning signs. Using them in your writing to convey enthusiasm too often could warn others to not take you seriously.      When I started paring back my punctuation, I noticed how that same inauthentic enthusiasm was showing up in my day-to-day. I discovered that the time I spend adjusting my tone takes a toll on my energy.      Managing other people’s feelings is exhausting. And what’s worse, it’s unnecessary.      Because an exclamation mark, like kindness, is a valuable resource. And I will use it properly. Full stop. And now let’s count, how many exclamation marks I used in this column! Thank you!!! Period. +++      Email: doringklaus@gmail.com or follow me at Facebook, Twitter or Linkedin or visit my www.germaninthephilippines.blogspot.com or www.klausdoringsclassicalmusic.blogspot.com.

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CAMIGUIN PROVINCE - 2014 NORTMIN FAVORED TOURIST DESTINATION

December 17, 2018

The tourism industry in Northern Mindanao soars up high as Camiguin Province “Island Paradise of the Pacific” is still the considered as the most- favored tourist destination for the year 2014. This is followed by Misamis Oriental/Gingoog Cluster.  Camiguin captured 33 percent share while the latter cornered 23 percent share of the total arrivals of the Region. Year-on-year, the same clusters led in getting the most number of tourists arrivals constituting 32 and 26 percent shares of the total arrivals, respectively.     Tourists arrivals for the 4th quarter of 2014 totalled to 465,646.  This is 49 percent higher than the 313,311 arrivals during the same period in 2013.  Of the total tourist arrivals for the reference quarter, majority were domestic tourists comprising about 98 percent (454,789), while foreign tourists comprised a meager share of around 2 percent (10,857).     During the year, majority of the foreign tourists were mostly from East Asia, Europe and North America constituting 21, 17, and 16 percent shares of the total foreign tourist arrivals, respective ly.  However, compared to last year, East Asia (28 percent) and North America (18 percent) clusters recorded the highest decreases while ASEAN (42 percent) and Middle East (24 percent) clusters posted increases in the total regional arrivals.     On hotel occupancy it was noted that the region’s rate for the entire year of 2014 was 38 percent.  The Province of Camiguin as the most favored destination during the year consequently recorded the highest hotel occupancy rate amongst the regional clusters at 71 percent.  This is followed by Bukidnon-Malaybalay, Valencia at 38 percent, Misamis Oriental-Cagayan de Oro City, Gingoog City Cluyster at 35 percent and Lanao del Norte-Iligan City cluster at 31 percent.  Misamis Occidental-Tangub City, Oroquieta , Ozamis City cluster had the lowest occupancy rate at 14 percent.     For the fourth quarter of 2014, the average hotel occupancy rate of the region was 41 percent with Misamis Oriental-Cagayan de Oro City, Gingoog City cluster posting the highest rate at 88 percent among the clusters.     While the combined total number of conventions and seminars/workshops held in the region during the year reached to 3,217(+20percent year-on-year) with total number of participants of 529,144 (+54 percent year-on-year).  About 93 percent of these events were locally-organized activities. Misamis Occidental-Tangub City, Oroquieta, Ozamis City cluster hosted 978 events or 30 percent of the total events for the year. Misamis Oriental-Cagayan de Oro City, Gingoog City cluster trailed closely behind with a total of 864 events or 27 percent of the regional total.     With the able leadership of Tourism Czar for Mindanao-Regional Director Catalino ‘Butch’ E. Chan 111, the booming tourism industry of the Region will catapult Northern Mindanao as one of the country’s top tourist destination.

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Christmas is just around the corner

December 10, 2018

Christmas evokes memories and sentiments that travel with us treasured gifts of our hearts. It is the time for reflection of the year past, of things we’ve done to make a difference in the lives of others. It’s indeed a time for thanksgiving for the blessings received, and for the trials and pains that helped shape, strengthen, and mold us to become better persons.     “Hay nako” - the typical Philippine expression, I adopted many times since living in the Philippines for good. What on earth am I here for?     The more I look around the world, the more people I’m able to observe: stranded people, but many still having the optimistic smile on their faces. People, who are losing more and more of their bearings and are getting muddled in their lives.      If several political leaders globally confuse us more instead of leading us on the right way, we cry out for a satisfying answer through the institution church. It doesn’t matter what season we are in: wars, climate change with natural disasters, helpless politicians at the present G20 - conference trying to portray a positive outlook with their picture taking... . Yes, “hay nako” ...!     Modesty will never get them what they actually deserve. Charity and brotherly or sisterly love, as the bible teaches us, are becoming foreign terms. moral and human values are badly needed to drive and out energy and vigor in our daily life as we stroll into painful indifference and peppered egoism.      Our daily ill feelings regarding all parts of our life can’t be or can’t remain as a permanent state of affairs. Incompetent and incapable leaders, who are still being able to continue in their own monstrous, unhindered and impertinent style are every country’s poison and reason for decline.     During the last weeks I received innumerable religious and philosophical literature and invitation from several institutions. I must confess, that I have been confused many times. I am sorry and I really wish to apologize, if I reject most “of this stuff”, and, if I decide NOT to answer such emails or text messages. Sure, it’s is Christmas time, but... .     May the love and humility the birth of our Lord Jesus Christ signified remain etched in our hearts. Let not the frenetic gift-giving and seemingly endless merriment becloud the pristine message that Christmas imparts. +++     Email: doringklaus@gmail.com. Visit: germanexpatinthephilippines.blogspot.com or www.klausdoringslcassicalmusic.blogspot.com  or follow me in Facebook, Linkedin or Twitter .

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Those were the days

December 3, 2018

Time flew by. I think sitting in a jet plane. Almost December again. Wow!     Do you always count the days up to the next legal holidays without being on duty? Or do you start as early as September longing for Christmas?      Many times, we are really too much in a hurry while feeling uncomfortable if we noticed how time flies. We have no time for someone or something or even for ourselves.   When I was still a teenager, I was longing for the time being an adult already. Later, I enjoyed listening to my grandmother’s stories such as “Once upon a time” or “When I was young” from her “yesterday’s life”... .    . After a couple of years, especially while observing that time really flies like a racket to the moon, I also got the same question in mind: Are the present hours and days less valuable?     Of course, each day has its own set of happiness and trials. But it also holds very high possibilities of we take the initiative to do or to move something, if... !     The luring term IF let us look into the future with an over “glistening” eye: IF I will finish my studies, IF my children have become adults, IF I might become rich because I win in the lottery, yes IF? And then?     Why do I am getting so thoughtful or even sentimental? I got the great opportunity being invited by the City Mayor’s office thru City Administrator and good friend Attorney Lyca Lopez for the Pasko Fiesta sa Davao event with the Philippine Philharmonic Orchestra Manila, soloist Erik Santos and the Nightingales. The PPO under its conductors Yoshikazu Fukumura and Herminigildo Ranerda performed for the first time in Davao City. Erik Santos, the first grand champion of the ABS-CBN singing competition Star in a Million Season 1, touched all of us with his soulful voice.      And then, the Nightingales - a vocal duo featuring Bianca Camille Lopez and Ma. Rhina Paula Palma-Cruz, both former members of the Philippine Madrigal Singers.     While listening to all these amazing and unforgettable performances, I always got in mind: Those were the days. How time flew by. The concert last almost 2 1/2 hours.     The future prospects smile at us already. I was looking already for the 2019-calendar. Setting appointments for January and February. Amazing.  Is life in future easier, nicer, more charming and being more fulfilled compared to the present? The thoughts fill me with horror, because tragicomic future visions can easily blur away our present day.     Many of us retreat into the past and forget their present existence. A possible topsy-turvy world of a golden youth tries to let us forget that also the past have had its share of disappointments, pains, tears, darkness, tricky as well as desperate days... yes, lost days, irretrievable time... .     Without having achieved anything to do, we dream our impossible dreams from last to future and vice versus. We forget that between yesterday and tomorrow is our valuable present. Well, now well then - if we know just how to fulfill this period. +++     Email: doringklaus@gmail.com or follow me in Facebook, LinkedIn or Twitter or visit my www.germanexpatinthephilippines.blogspot.com or www.klausdoringsclassicalmusic.blogspot.com .

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